Thank you, Gary Doherty, for the amazing Think Self-Belief event recently, which was a great success and huge energy in the room. As one of the speakers, I thought I’d share with you my story and key lessons one at a time.
As a leadership coach, and through my own personal experience I can tell you I have yet to meet anyone who doesn’t have negative voices in their head. Someone recently said to me, “but surely successful leaders don’t have these.” My response was, “anyone who is successful has had to go through periods of growth, and with this comes growing pains, learning new skills and ultimately occasions of negative voices in their head.” My advice is to learn techniques to manage these voices to your advantage. I tell people these voices are beneficial and help you achieve the goals and success you have, but they need to be managed. Two of my main gremlins are Miss High Achieve and Miss Hurry Up. A mentor previously said to me, “Cara you don’t just want to learn to play golf, you want to learn in 3 months, play against Rory McIlroy and win.” That is pretty much how I approach everything in life. I realise my gremlins have really helped me to achieve the next goal, but if they become too loud or negative they are detrimental. One technique that helps me is turn these into people, and use their voice to drive me on. When they become too negative, I ask them to keep quiet and I use other techniques to visualise my outcome of success.
I’d love to hear what techniques you use to help manage your inner critic.